Saturday, August 27, 2011

Pancakes with Dad

We are not morning people. By we, I mostly mean me. But as a general rule, our family does not function well before, let's say, 10am. So Brandon has this great job. Really, he does. And he loves Paige immensely. (And yes, my thoughts will eventually connect. I just need a minute to connect them.) The one fatal flaw of this job is that he works M-F from 1 or 2 until 9pm. It means that he leaves for work just before Paige gets home from school. He misses out on dinner with his family. And he doesn't get to be around for homework, baths, chores, or the cherished bedtime ritual. And part of the irony of all of this is that he works with teenage girls who are coping with neglect, abuse, and all sorts of "dad" issues. He sees first-hand how vital his role is as a father. And I think he gets really down on himself about not seeing Paige very much throughout the week.

So, here is where my thoughts connect. I hope. My love and admiration for Brandon grew a million times over this week. I never think that is possible since I already love and admire him times infinity. But it did. That sleep-deprived, over-stressed, maxed-out guy set his alarm clock for 7am every morning this week. He went in and woke up Paige and declared that 7-7:30 was their special Dad/Paige time. They went downstairs and made pancakes, waffles, hot chocolate, cereal... whatever they were in the mood for that day and spent a good half hour talking about school and life and everything else. Eventually Hailey and Easton would wake up and join the party. But Brandon got Paiger ready and loaded up the stroller and walked Miss Paige (and her siblings) over to the school every day this past week so that I could rest. I don't know. Maybe it seems like such a small little thing. Pancakes with dad while the rest of the house sleeps. But for this sleep-deprived, over-stressed, maxed-out mom I think it is a pretty great definition of love.

4 comments:

  1. That is most definitely the definition of love. Brandon is a great Dad and you are an amazing Mommy! I'm better for knowing you guys, truly!

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  2. My mom went back to work when my dad lost his job. I was two at the time. My dad went back to school and eventually got a job that allowed him to be home with me every morning. We would have breakfast and watch "Today's Special" or "The Polka Dot Door" and then he would get me ready and take me to school. I still vividly remember those mornings and I know Paige will too! There is a special connection between Daddy's and daughters and you can tell that Brandon has that with his girls!

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  3. For a long time now, I have watched Brandon make sacrifices for his kids to make them happy. He is truly an amazing dad! I'm glad you're able to see these sweet moments and recognize how lucky your family is to have Brandon leading it! But, I want you to also remember that you are an amazing mom! I know you are exhausted right now, but that's because while Brandon's having daddy and kids times, you're having mommy and twins time! Keep resting and staying strong mentally! I can't wait to see you!

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  4. Omg... I didn't read this until now and it made me cry... y'all are amazing parents and you have amazing kids

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